And with Dru, though he loved her too, there was some kind of violence in there as well. There had to be. With Harmony, well, we all know how he acted with her non sexual wise so... even though he advanced on her like a feline and his prey... you know... there was always violence. It's in the nature of the vampire. And, with Buffy, it was always no but com here so we bone like bunnies and such.

My opinion on this scene is kinda weird. I believe the rape part for Buffy's side... or Dawn or Xander and everyone else's. I believe it's not rape for Spike in the sense that violence was always part of it with Buffy and even before Buffy.And Buffy, deep down, knows the truth... Except, this time, she really meant no and it was a whole lot confusing. She wasn't in her right state of mind just before that and well, Spike couldn't understand her and her no and so... that happened.

Canon-wise, it is a rape scene... the way it was scripted and all and both James and Sarah hated filming it and, I think, even Joss called it the almost rape scene at some point?!

I can't say black or white on is it an attempted rape not. It's all shaded in grey.